How to Make Someone Like You a Lot in 3 Simple Steps

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Is there a ‘magic bullet’ answer to creating a long lasting relationship? Well, yes and no. It’s not like you can just snap your fingers and magically create great relationships, but if you’re willing to do the following 3 steps it will seem like your relationships are magically transforming. It should be noted that these guidelines apply to both business and personal relationship as it doesn’t matter the type of relationship, because they all involve people.

Step 1: Love Yourself First

We’ve all heard this before, but it’s worth mentioning again. If you don’t love yourself how can you expect to have anything to offer in a relationship? When it comes down to it, you must first love yourself before you can truly love others and you must love yourself before you can accept that others truly love you. Think about it, how are you going to be able to concentrate on other people if you are focused on everything that is wrong with you. You must love yourself before you love another. By accepting yourself and fully being what you are, your simple presence can make others happy. This is the first step in creating a long lasting relationship.

Step 2: Build Trust and Respect

There have been studies done that show that trust is reciprocal. How you feel about someone else is usually a good indication of how they feel about you. If trust and respect are so important, why don’t most people learn how to establish relationships of trust and respect with others? Trust and respect are very personal emotions, and sharing emotions is commonly regarded as only suitable for intimate relationships. Most people have a fear of intimacy. Yet, feelings of intimacy are what create the strongest bonds between people and solidify their relationships. So how do you create this bond in your everyday relationships? It’s a simple “Relationship Inquiry” process, that is easy to learn, in which the person you are with always suggests the next question to ask. In order to follow this process you have to…

Step 3: Stand in Their Shoes

As we’ve mentioned elsewhere on this blog, people only care about two things: themselves, and what you can do for them. All relationships begin with communication. When communicating with others it’s important to realize that all communication should be done with the other person in mind. With that tidbit of information you are now equipped to begin to build a foundation for a relationship. The best way to truly find out where someone is coming from is to ask questions. People love to talk about themselves so this is not a difficult task to undertake. The more questions you ask the more you’ll find out about them and what they are looking for. The more someone feels you care about them as a person, (and please note this has to be genuine – manipulating someone for the wrong reasons into this relationship building process will not work) the more they will open up and give back in the relationship.

Making someone like you a lot is ultimately up to you. It’s not a magic formula, it might even take some good old fashion work on your part to begin with, but in the end it will be worth it!

“Make the most of yourself, for that is all there is of you.” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

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